The following is a transcript of Story Hour with Evelyn Wallace recorded on 5 March, 2018 in rural Eastern Oregon.
Hello! Evelyn Wallace signing in for Story Hour. I would like to talk today about VILLAGE. It’s a new approach for me to have a topic! (Laughs.) So thanks, for those of you who have tolerated my tangents. Today I’d like to talk about VILLAGE, because the way I feel like I have been living lately embodies this concept. And it really did start when Marshall lay dying and showed me that the golden light that animates him is the same golden light that animates me. And you. And everything in between. So really we are all just drops of golden liquid floating in a golden pool, so who’s to say I you and in between. But I also understand how that feels very esoteric and abstract, so sometimes it’s easier to see that connection and that oneness by acknowledging that all people are part of my heart. Or our hearts. That’s VILLAGE. VILLAGE means you treat people the way you hope they will treat you when you’re in… or when they're in your city. Village does mean the golden rule, but we’ve heard it in that way so many times that it’s hard to hear it. It’s hard to know it. Or, sorry. I don’t mean to say to you what’s hard and what’s not hard. I choose to express the golden rule in different ways so that it stays alive and fresh. Like a yoga pose. Keep it fresh. Keep it alive. Keep it in motion, as all alive things are.
So VILLAGE means taking care of each other. It means treating people the way you’d like to be treated. When Maestro and I are out and about in the world, people shelter us. That’s VILLAGE, right? We are wanderers. We aren’t exactly vacationers, although I can see how many of you may see it that way. We certainly choose to breathe bliss and relaxation, and the vibes that most people associate with their vacation life, and we choose to go to places, well, sometimes, that make that more easy to do, like beaches. But we also breathe bliss in traffic. And yes, part of that is the privilege of not having to be at work at a certain time, and I acknowledge that privilege and I am grateful for it… and I’m ALSO going to work. (Laughs.)
This is my work. This is the most important work I could ever be doing. And I do it with love in my heart, and with faith that it will all work out the way it needs to. It might not work out the way I think it will, or the way I hope it will, and that’s okay. It will work out the way it needs to! (Laughs.) And so far, our VILLAGE has continued to extend. And the people who are willing… and it doesn’t have to be shelter, right?.. There are so many ways to offer an energetic balance in a relationship. I was just teaching my kids about this! (Laughs.) It’s okay to take, give and take. And yes, kids are going to take in a different ratio than people who aren’t your children are going to take, but still there’s got to be a balance. Even expressing gratitude is a GIVE, right? I give back. And THEN, you figure out the balance: giving is getting is giving is getting. THAT’S harmony. That’s bliss. That’s VILLAGE bliss.
A girlfriend of mine, I call her a fellow goddess, she is a massage therapist, and she’s helping other people’s bodies a lot; her body ends up needing attention, too. She was feeling some tension and pain in her neck and hips and we just put some music on and I asked if it was okay, I asked for consent, if it was okay for me to work on those places, and she said yes, and I just touched her. I’m not a massage therapist, I don’t know! But I do know what my body wants. I do know how my hips work. Because I LISTEN to them. And I touched her and I pushed on places and she gave me feedback, non-verbal and sometimes verbal. You know you can feel when someone’s diggin’ it! Diggin’ the way you’re touching them. And it was so pleasing for me to be able to give something to this person I love so much. And she received it with such joy and gratitude, that at the end she said, “thank you so much for channeling the forces of the universe!” (Laughs.) And I said, “it was truly my pleasure.” It was truly my pleasure. Giving is getting is giving is getting.
This same goddess often calls me to her house, or any of us over to her house after she’s gone grocery shopping, and she opens her fridge and she says “look at how RICH I am! I’m so RICH!” And she’s RIGHT. And she’s right. She has enough to feed her belly. [Note: this goddess often feeds her VILLAGE’S bellies, too. It brings her joy. Because why? Because giving is getting is…] And a roof to keep the rain and snow off. And then a little extra. Travel and communication is important, too. Just having food and shelter is like, survival. But you’ve got to ensure… well you don’t have to do anything… but I would like to ensure that my survival is living the quality of life that is worth being lived....
All human lives are equally valuable, if not equally resourced. All lives are equally valuable. All lives are not equally resourced. I had another discussion with another member of the VILLAGE who offered shelter in L.A. He said that in his business brain, he was always taught “‘people are equal; we are all born equal,’ so I just happened to do better, I’m just more successful, and the people who aren’t as successful are just not as good as I am, because we all got the same… we’re all even/ equal." And I [Evy] found myself thinking, “well there’s some validity in the statement ‘we are all equal,’” but then after some thought I realized, “right, it’s that all lives are equally valuable, even though we can be persuaded to believe that there are some lives that are more valuable than others. There are these spectrums that we are taught are better and worse. Like YOUNG is better than OLD. Right? You never see beauty products that try to make you look ten years older! (Laughs.) Young is better than old. Coupled is better than single. You can disagree, that’s fine. But I see it as true. As what we are taught. They’re all MYTHS! I’m not repeating them as truth. I’m repeating them as fallacy/ mistaken.
So this member of my VILLAGE in LA who was saying, “I used to think in my business mindset, this is how we are taught it’s okay to treat people. And it’s a justification to treat people who are less resourced as if their lives are less valuable. They didn’t earn it. So they don’t deserve help. For feeding their family. I don’t need help. Why should they?” But he said later he came around. “No, no, nonono. That’s not right. All people are not born equally. People are not born with equal resources. People are not born with equal opportunities. And it is the job of those who are born with more to protect and ensure the rights of the people who were born with less.”
Because that’s what VILLAGE does.
Because what you do to the least of my brothers, you do unto ME. Because we are all one.
Speaking in a hurtful way, or behaving in a hurtful way, or even thinking in a hurtful way, although sometimes you can catch yourself there, and just recognize it, and think, ‘yick, that’s a hurtful thought.. That doesn’t feel good in my heart.” I understand that when we are hurting, it can feel like an instinct to hurt, to then cast hurt onto others. But that’s not how it really works. That’s not how hurting works. When you throw hurt onto someone else, or the intention of hurt onto someone else, you’re rusting away your link of this fabric, of this chain link… I have this vision of this golden chain link fabric that we ALL ARE. And if we all just polish our own link, like imagine… Okay let’s all count to three. One - two - three - POLISH! Polish our own souls. Nourish our own souls. Take care of our own deepest self. And then look up. Look around.
I also feel like I need to say… I acknowledge that human rights violations happen on earth in places and at a frequency that is unacceptable. It’s unacceptable to interrupt someone’s joy. And it’s DEFINITELY unacceptable to interrupt someone’s safety. And it is the MOST UNACCEPTABLE TO INTERRUPT SOMEONE’S LIFE. You cannot. That’s NOT OKAY. That’s not okay.
I know that there are people in the world making waves in those ways, in those human rights [activism] ways. They are carrying love into the world. And I hope that the way I carry love into the world also in some way reverberates through this golden chain link fabric that we ALL ARE, to reach the deepest levels of our own human connectedness. Because when we see that [is true], we would never inflict such violence or hurt or pain on anyone else. I was originally thinking about relationships! (Laughs.) Like relationship pain and hurtfulness, but we can take it bigger.
In any case, thanks for listening to my Story Hour about VILLAGE. I’m sure I’ll say more about it later, but that’s all for now! Signing off.
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